Akothee values forgiveness, her father-in-law hated her with passion but she had nice words to say about him during his burial.
The mother of four lost her father-in-law Evans Otieno Maduma who was laid to rest on May 6th. The late Maduma was the father to Akothee’s ex husband Jared Okello.
Akothee attended her father-in-law’s burial in Migori county and sat next to her ex husband during the ceremony.
“It’s Sad osiepna , mo’s kode wuon vesha ,your loss is our loss ,I could not let you do this alone ,you know where we have come from? You are my personal person and my best friend . The weight on your shoulder Is heavy ,but from the man of God That I know ? you shall pull through Jakwath . May God give you strength , patience and comfort wuon Nyithindo . We love you my darling ?,” wrote Akothee.
The mother of five eulogized her late father-in-law as a very hard working man.
“Earlier today getting ready to go and mourn with my first ever family after my maternal home , together with my kids ?today my Father inlaw Mr Evans Otieno Maduma will be laid to rest . What A hard working man . R.I .P BABA,” she wrote.
Akothee got married to Jared Okello at the age of 13 when she was still a student in high school in Homa Bay County.
She got her first baby at the age of 14, and by 16 she had already delivered four kids. (One died shortly after delivery).
Akothee’s father-in-law didn’t approve of their marriage. In March 2018, the singer painfully how Jared’s father stormed their house, beat her into a pulp before dragging her out of her compound in the dead of the night.
“You know, I have never told you that you were conceived while I was in the wilderness not knowing my beginning or my end. Your grandparents had chased me away with your two sisters and I had to go back to my parents. My mum was very eager to see me graduate like my age mates even though I was already a mother of 3 years old , so she took me back to school. Life was not easy.
“Your father was still in love with me and visited me in my small mabati house in Asego Kanyada as I was a day scholar. I was so attached to my children that boarding school was a no for me! I remember him buying me a stove so that it would be easy and faster for me to prepare my breakfast and not get late for school. Your father was a student too so he only shared with me what he had.
“Most of the support I got from my grandmother & my parents. See what the stove brought on board! After the stove, the following month was a no-go school. Apudo makadia was created! I was so confused. It was another embarrassing moment for me & my parents. I didn’t know what to do & where to go with this pregnancy but you know what, I decided to take it to the owner.”
“When my father in law learnt that am back in his son’s simba, he came and attacked us in the middle of the night EEEE we just heard someone break our mabati door. We were beaten to death both me and your father.”
“I slept on the streets. If I can remember, well I don’t know where your dad ran too. I will call him & ask him today.”
“The beating was so bad because it alarmed the entire community that a girl child is under siege so when they came to solve the matter, I was allowed to stay with my husband. We kept it secret until we settled down. They didn’t know I came back because their son followed me in school and did it again,” Akothee narrated.
Akothee and Jared were married for 10 years, they got divorced in 2006. He left her to fend for their three children on her own, she had no job at the time.
The mother of five forgave her ex husband despite her bitterness after the divorce, she didn’t block her three daughters from their father.
“I have raised my children knowing their father is alive, loved and respected❤ even in his absence??, but I used to gossip about him somewhere far from my kids before I healed ?? I have raised my children knowing church is a mandatory to go every Saturday unless otherwise,?? I have raised my children knowing forgiveness is divine?? I have never allowed the bitterness of single motherhood overwhelm me when bills hit me left and right?♂️, I have always stayed sober & calm knowing very well,my children are not the cause of my suffering, neither is their father , if the relationship dint work between us, it dint work for him too. Respect family values even when things go south ! A child has only 1 biological father and 1 biological mother, take your love triangle elsewhere and raise your children in peace without putting or subjecting your children to hate their father / mother you will never win.when they grow up,” wrote Akothee in November 2019.
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Back to May 2022, Akothee said nothing would separate her from her first husband and his family in spite of everything that happened.
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