“Kama hauko comfortable nikiongea na B.Daddy, we can call off all plans,” Yvonne Kontoz insists.
“Napenda mtoto wako vile nakupenda”is a narrative I barely buy. My Child is to be respected, she’s already loved. So denying my child her Fathers love just to make you happy can never be me!” She explains.
Many men are hesitant to marry a woman who is a single mother like Yvonne Kontoz, because they may not want to take on the responsibility of supporting a child that is not biologically theirs, which is a reasonable concern.
“My child is loved, my daughter is well taken care of, my little Girl has a Father, a very responsible father and I cannot break the bond they have just to get married or to fit your needs,” she announced leaving netizens confused.
Yvonne revealed that she ended her wedding plans after her fiancé asked her to cut off all communication with her child’s father.
Yvonne shared a Facebook post where she included a screenshot of the message she sent to her fiancé explaining why she called off the wedding.
She further criticized women who allow new men to dictate their communication with father’s to their children.
“I also understand many men date bitter single mom’s who are willing to even change their children identity to that of the new man they are dating/married to. Many single Moms even change their sim cards,in worst cases, others even neglect their kids to make their lovers happy!” She argues.
Yvonne stated that her fiancé had demanded that both her and her daughter sever all ties with her ex, the father of her child. Her fiancé had claimed that he would take care of her daughter, so there was no need for the child’s biological father to be involved in their lives.
However, this demand was a deal-breaker for Yvonne, who refused to compromise her daughter’s relationship with her biological father.
Many masculinity coaches suggest that men should generally avoid dating single mothers and consider it a waste of time unless the baby daddy is deceased.
Instead, they advice men to be patient and search among the four billion single women in the world to find a suitable partner; never to have a scarcity mindset and avoid Oneitis.
